Hello, friends! In this Q&A episode, I answer two very interesting questions relating to the need to always have attention from others, and wanting to be ‘normal’ and not using your diagnosis as a crutch while struggling with anxiety, mood swings, distrust and more.
Ok, I don’t have a therapist yet, currently looking for a trauma therapist. My parents divorced when I was 6. My mom’s boyfriend molested me at age 9, she didn’t believe me for a long time. My dad came back “as friends “ to help him get off alcohol (I think I was about 12). At 13 I was raped by my boyfriend in a field. I started running away from home. My dad left because he couldn’t handle me running away. I started doing drugs and being promiscuous. I stopped at 17 and got with my now husband (I have cheated) and have 6 kids.
But here’s the thing, I still feel the need to feel wanted by other people! Like let’s say I’m 40, I have 20 year olds in my DMs wanting me to be their cougar! I actually want people to want me! My husband shows me affection don’t get me wrong but I would like someone else a lot of the time too. I can get where my f**ked up past caused my bipolar, depression, anxiety, PTSD, but to be like this?! What the heck?! Thanks for listening!
Hey Dr. Duff, I’m new to the podcast, but I’m using it to help me on my personal journey of growth and I think it’s a very wonderful podcast.
I’m currently struggling in a lot of aspects of my life. I come from an emotionally neglected childhood and I don’t think my emotional maturity matches my age (29). I believe I have BPD, but in my limited interactions with a psychiatrist, my diagnosis was depression and anxiety. Frankly, I don’t want to use my diagnosis, whatever is the right one, as a crutch, and I just want to be “normal”. How can I work to get my anxiety, mood swings, depression, invasive negative thoughts, distrust, and controlling behaviors under control? I don’t want these behaviors to damage my two children or my relationship with my wife any more than they already have and I feel stuck in a rut.
Episode 262 – Related Posts
As well as listening to the podcast, you can also find my thoughts on the questions in written format in these related posts!
Question 1 – No Excuse? Why diagnosis can be important for helping you move forward – Duff The Psych
Question 2 – Is Craving Attention Beyond Your Relationship Wrong? – Duff The Psych
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