Hello, friends! In this episode, I take a look at two brilliant questions relating to the difficulty of finding friends in adulthood, especially when living abroad, and dealing with your own personal insecurities when they are harming your relationships.
Hi Dr. Duff I have immigrated to the US 8 years ago with my husband. Since then I have always been looking for finding great friends and it has been a big challenge, some people we met we didn’t like and some others who we like don’t like us. Within all these years I loved my own doctor and my baby’s doctor to the point I wanted to be their friend. I know doctors can’t be friends with their patients and that makes them more unreachable for me. They are now becoming like an idle for me. My question is why do I feel like that? Am I missing something in my relationship with my husband? Or is it because I am far from my family and good friends who are back in my country? Thank you and it is nice knowing you, I love your podcast
Hello, I am a 30 year old man dating women. I seem to inherently have insecurities in any relationship I am in. I have had several long-term relationships and they don’t always fall apart due to insecurities, however the most recent failure was in large part due to this. One thing I notice about myself is that early on in any relationship I am in, once we start to become serious and I have strong feelings for the other person, I start to get overly insecure. Many of the insecurities are unreasonable. Sometimes it’s about their sexual past, other times it’s about their male friends, or it’s about how I look and act. I don’t always bring them up with my partner but at times it will fester and change my mood. I don’t know why I am like this. I have dated a fair bit and have a normal sexual history myself but this undoubtedly becomes an issue. My most recent relationship ended due to a lot of trust and insecurity issues. Some were certainly my own doing but other things were her repeatedly lying to me, which only magnified the issues. This problem doesn’t seem to be something that is going away with age or maturity. I hope that once I start dating again that I can manage this so it doesn’t undeniably lead to the same end. Thanks for your time.
Episode 265 – Related Posts
As well as listening to the podcast, you can also find my thoughts on the questions in written format in these related posts!
Question 1 – Is it Okay to be Attracted to Your Doctor? – Duff The Psych
Question 2 – How to stop your insecurities and jealousy ruining your relationship – Duff The Psych
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