Hello, friends! In episode 286, I tackle two questions from listeners of the podcast. The first is related to increased anxiety around having free time and time off of work, while the second addresses issues surrounding relationships, self-esteem, and erectile dysfunction.
Hi Robert, I have a potential question for the podcast about increased anxiety around having free time off of work.
Question: I often find myself feeling exhausted or burnt out from working and just being busy with life, however I experience a lot of anxiety about having free time. Despite feeling exhausted, I avoid taking my vacation time and find myself dreading long weekends because my anxiety tends to increase when I have extra unscheduled time. I was wondering if you have any tips about how I can get to a place where I can find peace and enjoyment with simply relaxing?
Thanks so much for taking the time to read my question. On a personal note, I just wanted to take this moment to thank you for all of the work you are doing. I am finding myself in a place where I need some extra help with managing my anxiety, which is how I happened upon your podcast. I have been finding the podcast very helpful and insightful, it has encouraged me to go back to therapy, and I also just purchased your online course to work on in conjunction with the therapy. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge in a way that is approachable, accessible, and easy to understand and apply! Wishing you all the best
Hi Dr. Duff,
Back in the fall, my partner of 5 years and I broke up after deliberation surrounding an open relationship—in short, I didn’t want one (and was taken aback when it was suggested that far into the relationship), and it really messed with my self-esteem, trust, masculinity, and mental health as a whole.
However, I’ve been seeing someone new for the past few months, and it’s been great. We have similar interests and personalities, and we support each other with our respective mental health. However, the past few weeks I’ve been experiencing ED with them, which has further been messing with my self-esteem and masculinity.
I saw my primary care physician about it, who suggested that it’s likely psychological and not physical, as I’m young (in my mid-20s) and healthy overall. I’ve also been seeing a therapist since the breakup, which has been very helpful but hasn’t solved this physical problem. I’ve purchased some generic medication for the time being, which seems to work but lowers my self-esteem thinking I have to take it.
What recommendations do you have to work through this with for myself and my partner?
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