Hello, friends! In this Q&A episode, I take a look at two very different questions relating to working through past trauma that no one knows about when you have the need to remind yourself it was real, and how to address a diagnosis that you feel has been incorrectly given.
Dear Dr Duff, I have a somewhat specific question. I’m in therapy for childhood trauma no one but the abuser knows about (years of physical and verbal abuse). Me and my therapist discovered I have a strong need to create reminders for myself that my trauma really happened. I do this with self-harm and cannot let it go. I have irrational and somewhat intrusive thoughts and fears saying that if I stop self-harming, I’m admitting the trauma never happened. I can go several weeks without harming myself but eventually, the voice inside my head starts nagging me. My therapist says I’m putting up a memorial for everyone to see since no one in my life knows about the trauma. Also, I turned out OK, I’m quite successful; that’s great of course but it’s not helpful with this need for reminders. There is nothing about my life that would imply anything bad ever happened to me. Have you ever heard about anything like this? What would you recommend? My therapist admitted she’s never encountered anything like it but will do some research to see how we can approach this. Thank you and have a nice weekend!
Hey there, I just have a question I am hoping you’d like to address on the podcast. A bit of background: I am a 33 year old woman diagnosed with Bipolar 2 (29) and Borderline (31) – (though I think the latter could be a misdiagnosis given to me while in the middle of a severe depressive episode- more on that later). I have been in a lot of therapy, both outpatient and inpatient, am medicated, and am in a very good place mentally. However, since the bipolar symptoms are at bay and I am not currently in an episode, my psychiatrist wants me to go through ADHD diagnostics as concentration and other ADHD like symptoms are still problematic and can’t be explained away by a Bipolar episode. However, I think these symptoms might not actually be ADHD, but trauma symptoms from childhood SA (something my therapists were aware of but not treated or addressed directly). This is also why I think the Borderline diagnosis might be incorrect – that symptoms of trauma are being mistaken for symptoms of ADHD and Borderline. Do you have any experience with similar misdiagnosis / overlapping symptoms and how could I go about getting the correct diagnosis?
Episode 287 – Related Posts
As well as listening to the podcast, you can also find my thoughts on the questions in written format in these related posts!
Question 1 – Why Do I Remind Myself Of Trauma? – Duff The Psych
Question 2 – ADHD: I Think I’ve Been Misdiagnosed, What Can I Do? – Duff The Psych
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