Hello, friends. In this episode, I answer a question from an individual struggling to come to terms with their partner’s sexual past and who feels uncomfortable talking about this subject in therapy. I offer my thoughts on the situation, take a look at what might be underpinning these issues and what steps you can take to move forward positively within yourself and in your relationship.
Hi, I’m grateful that I found your podcast and enjoy every new episode.
I’m bipolar 2 and struggle with anxiety. I’ve been in therapy now for a while and have made great strides in my mental health. But a while ago I found out about my partners sexual past. My partner had a threesome many years ago and I struggle to not imagine it or view it in my head. Now I don’t have a problem with being sexual or exploring. I have as well, and have my own sexual past which I don’t find inferior. But these thoughts occasionally pop up in my head and it strongly affects me for the rest of the day. They give me great anxiety, resentment, and disgust. I know these are all irrational, unfair, double standard, and pointless thoughts. If I let it, it can bring me to a point of an anxiety/panic attack. I love my therapist but I don’t feel comfortable sharing this. I’m looking to see if you can give me some advice, ideas, or maybe an insight on how to deal with these thoughts or why I have them.
Thank you, and again much appreciated.
Episode 273 – Related Posts
As well as listening to the podcast, you can also find my thoughts on the questions in written format in these related posts!
Why Am I Reacting To My Partner’s Sexual Past? – Duff The Psych
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