My soon to be ex husband has a family history of mental illness and many suicides. He struggled with it as well off and on

A few months ago he had an out of body experience dream and out of the blue he decided he wanted a divorce. The week prior he said he was the happiest he’s ever been and he was very happy with our marriage. There was a complete change. He wouldn’t do couples therapy because he said it has nothing to do with our marriage, but more of his mental illness. He said his mental health was changing me and he couldn’t live with himself if he stayed because he couldn’t give me the life I deserved.

How do I move on from a great 12 year marriage? I don’t feel like I can accept his reasoning.

Thank you!

Question 2:

A few weeks ago (3.5) my mother was involved in a very serious car accident. She was not expected to live, and suffered a very serious brain bleed. She spent days in the ICU, and weeks in inpatient rehab and is now staying with me while she recovers.  We’re very lucky because she’s made miraculous progress to the point where she can walk and talk and is almost her normal self.

She doesn’t remember her accident and she was not the one driving. She has mentioned to me that at times she gets a “weird feeling” from certain triggers such as hearing cars pass on the Highway outback of our house. Of course it’s expected to be triggered after a major trauma. She keeps saying she’s terrified that the memory of the accident will come back to her and she will remember. She’s very afraid that this is going to happen.

Is it possible for her to remember the accident if she doesn’t now? We have our theories that she may have been asleep at the time as it was late at night and there was a lot of alcohol involved. I’m just curious if she could gain memory of the accident if presented with enough triggers. If so, do you have any advice on how I could prepare her for that?

Thank you for taking the time to read this!