Hello, friends. In this episode, I answer two questions rooted in anxiety. The first discusses anxiety, panic, and sex having lost the ability to have sex multiple times in a row, and the second looks at how to encourage exposure while also addressing the need to want your therapist to be proud of you.
Hey Dr Duff,
So I think I might be having a problem in bed, I say I think because I’m not 100% sure if it is a problem or not. I used to be able to have sexual intercourse with my ex girlfriend 2, 3 sometimes even 4 times in a row. Mind you, I had commitment issues with this person at the time and quite frankly I believe I still do with current relationships. It wasn’t until one day that we were in bed about to have sex, my commitment issues crept up on me and my heart started pounding and I had some sort of panic attack. I had a hard time trying to get an erection that night. Ever since then, I haven’t been able to have sex with any partners multiple times in a row, just once. What do you think it might be? My way of interpreting it is “I might not be attracted to my partners as much as I think I am” but that’s not a healthy way of thinking. Hope you can help, thanks.
Hey Dr Duff,
I have had GAD, major depressive disorder, and agoraphobia with panic attacks for about 2 years, following an MS relapse. My question is… how do I get the motivation to do my exposures when I am comfortable always being at home? My therapist wants me to do exposures, and sometimes I lie and tell her I went for a walk, or rode in the car with my boyfriend, when I did not. I don’t know why I feel like I want her to be proud of me. But I can not get myself to do the exposures. Probably because my boyfriend enables me and I am terrified of panic attacks, as I have them often. Any advice?
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