Hello, friends. In this episode, I answer questions related to supporting your partner through past trauma when it’s impacting your own mental health, and overcoming feelings of guilt and shame that are attached to your ADHD diagnosis.
Hi, Dr. Mr. Señor Monsieur Duff,
My partner has birth-onset bipolar disorder and schizoaffective disorder, as well as autism. We live in a Southern US state, and finding a therapist who is willing to work with her is impossible (she’s seen 10 different therapists, and BetterHelp didn’t work.) She’s recently been remembering and trying to work through a truckload of trauma from her youth, and while I try to be supportive, it’s ALL we talk about. All roads lead to Traumatown. It’s getting to a point where I hate talking at all now. I feel horrible asking her to stop, but she needs more than just me and that’s been difficult to find. But I feel like if this keeps up, I’ll stop wanting to be with her. I suffer from severe depression (unmedicated), and it destroys my mental health to talk about nothing but trauma. But I also love her and want to support her the best I can. Help?
Episode 214 – Related Posts
As well as listening to the podcast, you can also find my thoughts on the questions in written format in these related posts!
Question 1 – How Can I Support My Autistic Partner’s Mental Health Without Harming My Own? – Duff The Psych
Question 2 – ADHD Diagnosis: What can I do to overcome feelings of guilt and shame? – Duff The Psych
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