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I’m Dr. Duff

I’m Robert, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Southern California, and author of the bestselling Hardcore Self Help book series. I also host a weekly podcast where I address reader questions and interview others in the mental health field.

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Episode 26: All About Sleep!

Episode 26: All About Sleep!

This episode is a deep dive look into how you can suck less at sleeping. Sponsored this week by audible. Check out for a free month of Audible and one free book.

Here are the cliffnotes of this episode:

  • Good habits related to sleep are called “Sleep Hygiene”
  • Most of it comes down to association and conditioning
  • You should have a consistent sleep routine
  • You should ONLY sleep in your bed vs working on the laptop, using your phone etc.
  • Get your phone out of the room
  • Wind down and go offline 30 min before bed
  • Avoid exercise, caffeine etc.

Keep sending me your questions to or on twitter at

September 7, 2016 0

Episode 25: Telling My Therapist About past Self-Harm, Getting Too Close, and Self-Destruction Through Relationships

Super awesome and very brave questions today with some common themes between them. Thank you all so much for continuing to be active participants in this show. Not only are you doing something great for yourself by asking your questions, but you may be helping someone else with a similar concern. Here’s what we cover in today’s episode:

  • Will my therapist break confidentiality if I disclose information about past self-harm?
  • What should I do if my therapist feels TOO emotionally close to me?
  • Is my current relationship just another form of self-harm?

As always you can reach me on twitter at or via email at

August 31, 2016 0

Episode 24: Depersonalization, Toxic Friend, Knowing vs Believing

Before I talk about the episode, get your buns over to so that you can enter to win some awesome free stuff. Ending this week.

Anyway, this was another awesome possum question and answer episode. Super pleased with the variety of questions. Nice work and please keep them coming. Here is what we cover in this episode:

  • How do I cope with feeling detached from my body and experiences?
  • What should I do about a toxic friend?
  • What happens when you “know” for a fact that you are bad. Therapy can’t help with that, right?

As always you can reach my on twitter at or email me

August 24, 2016 0

Episode 23: Psychologist vs Psychiatrist etc.

This is another deep dive episode where I focus on one topic and give you more in depth information than I typically do on the Q&A episodes. In this one, I talk all about the different terminology related to mental health treatment. I talk about the different terms for treatment itself such as therapy, psychotherapy, and counseling as well as the different people who provide services such as psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, neurologists, and more.

Fair warning- this information is pretty USA based since some of the terminology varies, but I hope it is helpful nonetheless!

Next week will indeed be another Q&A episode, so keep sending your questions into me or

August 17, 2016 0

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