In this episode, I have my beautiful wife Joelle back on the podcast. We take a few minutes to update you on our crazy life and then discuss some listener questions that mainly focus on communication in relationships. Enjoy!
Erectile dysfunction (ED), or the inability to get/keep an erection during sexual activity, is a major problem. Estimates suggest it may impact up to 30 million people with penises. It’s an issue that has obvious ramifications when it comes to the mechanics of having penetrative sex, but it is also something that can have a devastating impact psychologically. ED is linked to shame, guilt, depressive symptoms, performance anxiety, and relationship disruption. It can be tough for the person with ED to cope with not being able to “perform” when the time comes and it can be easy for their partner(s) to fall into the trap of feeling that they did something wrong or they are not desirable enough for their partner to get an erection. Recently on episode 160 of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I got the following question about ED:
Finding the courage to take the leap and get some therapy for yourself can be hard. It also takes time to develop a relationship with your therapist that allows you to trust them enough to be open and honest. This is especially true when you might be someone that has a history of trauma, abuse, or problematic relationships. That trust is hard earned and you may even feel like your therapist is one of the only people that you can actually be honest with about your feelings. Unfortunately, therapists are normal people too (well, most of us). That means that sometimes life gets in the way and they are no longer able to keep seeing you for therapy. This could be do to relocating, changing jobs to a different agency, not being approved as a provider for a specific insurance panel, or other personal reasons that you would never learn about. And when this happens… it usually doesn’t feel so good. Here’s a question that I recently got on episode 158 of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast: