Erectile dysfunction (ED), or the inability to get/keep an erection during sexual activity, is a major problem. Estimates suggest it may impact up to 30 million people with penises. It’s an issue that has obvious ramifications when it comes to the mechanics of having penetrative sex, but it is also something that can have a devastating impact psychologically. ED is linked to shame, guilt, depressive symptoms, performance anxiety, and relationship disruption. It can be tough for the person with ED to cope with not being able to “perform” when the time comes and it can be easy for their partner(s) to fall into the trap of feeling that they did something wrong or they are not desirable enough for their partner to get an erection. Recently on episode 160 of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I got the following question about ED:
Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer three awesome listener questions about some very interesting topics. For those of you that are super sensitive about the topic, the first couple questions involve sex and sexuality, so be aware!
This week, I have a nice Q&A session for you. Three really great questions that cover a variety of topics. Some of the content in here is sexually related and there is also plenty of talk about trauma. Be advised.
Doing a pretty straightforward Q&A session this week, with questions about polyamory, how to deal with family issues due to having bipolar disorder, and advice on living with a disability. Thanks for checking out Hardcore Self Help! You can find transcripts of the episode below.
Here are this week’s questions:
My husband and I want to explore polyamory, but how can I get over my anxiety about him liking someone else more than me?
How can I get my family to stop abandoning me due to my bipolar?
What can I do now that my disability prevents me from doing the things that I used to love?